People can also experience similar feelings when a relationship ends, when they lose some particular body function or ability due to injury or accident.
The loss of a loved one is a tragedy unequalled by any other loss. It is an experience that occurs sometime or other in everyone's life. Preceding this unique life event we all experience loss throughout our lives whether its the loss of a job, relationship, marriage, physical ability or function or anything else we are personally attached to in either an emotional, physical or psychological way.
We are affected by loss more and more in this age of communication and media. Natural disasters and human conflicts have devastated families in many nations and have been televised extensively over recent years. This in itself has a strong influence on our lives. How many times have you watched some tragedy or another on the telvision and been moved to tears or angered by the injustice of it all. Frequently, over such dramatic circumstances, grief over the death of a loved one is compounded by these related tragedies, as when one person survives the loss of an entire family, when personal injury adds to suffering, when violent and brutal death are witnessed, or when homes homes and livelihoods are lost through the circumstances of war or other disaster. All this is to us in the relative safety of Australia beyond comprehension and imagining until it becomes personal.
Whether we like it or not the reality of death and loss is in our lives on a daily basis affecting us all in different and unique ways. Its usually when it becomes personal in some way that we are confronted by the power of our own grief. The impact of such a personal bereavement creating an interplay of feelings of disbelief, loss of hope and despair weaving through responses of numbness, even deeper despair and anger. Essentially generally devastating our lives in some way. There is no real map through the grief experience, you are either prepared for it by nature of your own psychological landscape of awareness and meaning or ripped apart by the shock of your loss. You may be initially numbed by it though eventually the reality of the loss confronts us all. Gender and individual sensitivities and personal attachments and cultural & spiritual beliefs nd doctrine further complicating the inevitable truth that this person is no longer physically with us and it hurts.
Then comes the life after your loss which is for some time inclusive of the memories you have, the symbols and the objects of your experiences with who you have lost and the life that you had. There are the waves of emotions that for a time emmerse us in a turmoil of pain and disbelief, the echoes that emerge from the depths of our minds as we face the reality of our loss. There is no easy way to bear such a loss and there is no prescription for its effects there is only your own way forward whatever that entails and whatever it brings you to do and affects it hs on your life. For a time there will be no time. Though eventually time returns and we are uniquely changed by our loss, we are deepened in the inteligence of our emotions and the cycles of life and death. the world looks very different now.
Health retreats can play a unique role in helping people with feelings of loss and bereavement. They provide a non clinical space to allow you to be with yourself or in a group to help you take your mind off the matter at hand. Massage and body work offers enourmous benefits in helping a person release stress and tension and deeper seated emotions from the body, and if the retreat offers professional counseling and associated healing services this non clinical environment can profoundly assist a person in the navigation of strong emotions, fragmented beliefs and the disorientating affects of grief. Whether a structured program of activity or a non structured program of self discovery the benefits of being in the right health retreat at the right time are invaluable.